In my Soul Journey I asked my soul in a meditation: ‘What do you want?’ she replied clearly and simply: ‘To alleviate suffering’. ‘Is this what I must do then?’ ‘Yes’.
Following that road, I worked on and off for 3 years as a live-in carer with widows, mainly women with dementia and end of life.
I often used music, art, colouring, Nature and Reiki with my dementia clients. Music was particularly effective. Music can connect people with parts of the brain, emotion and memory, that nothing else can. Also makes people happier and calmer, gives a story line, a continuity which is so important in the fragmented landscapes of Alzheimer's. Music connects people with the most inner part of themselves, allowing for a sense of self that otherwise would be lost. The key for this is to find 'personal music' that was relevant for each person in the past. It's not unusual that people can't remember if they just had a cup of tea, but remember the entire lyrics of songs from the 50's or 60's.
After I helped Sheila gently crossing to the other side, I felt compelled to make a little book with photos, notes on dementia, my work of care and compassion, and also our dialogues in the weeks before she died. I called the book 'A path of compassion'. This was my way to honour her life, the care work and our journey together.
"I don't know where I am
because I am where I am
because I am" (Sheila, 2017)
I can design a memory book for you and your beloved with Alzheimer's / someone who passed. It is a beautiful way to remember, honour and share a life story.
I can also offer information sessions for family members on understanding dementia, how to plan for care and practical advice for day to day life, communication and how to deal with challenging emotions. Please contact me
See below: The Art of grief and Care for Caregivers
"Death is a mystery, and people who are dying are turning toward mystery, and mystery is this unknowable territory, the land of unanswerable questions. To be a good companion, I have to be comfortable in that territory of mystery as well, and that doesn’t mean that I have all the answers. It means that I’m willing to stay in the room when the going gets tough. That I don’t turn away from the unknown, that I enter with a quality of curiosity and wonder."
The programs can be tailored to suit a group / place
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